Getting a girlfriend is not a must for a man. Yet, lots of men want to have a girlfriend in their lives. For the purposes of this article, I will not discuss whether it’s the correct decision for a man to get a girlfriend. This article is for men who already decided to get a girlfriend.
Your girlfriend should be an asset to your life, not a liability. Relationships take work, so you don’t want a person in your life who is not worth the effort you put in. A bad woman can cost you your time, social life, sanity, health, self-esteem, and your financial well-being. Moreover, some relationships lead to marriages. Bad girlfriends make bad wives. So, you must do your due diligence when you are upgrading a girl to girlfriend status.
You can’t get to know everything about a girl before you spend enough time with her during a relationship. However, there are some easy to spot qualities she must have, which you can figure out within only a few dates before you pick her to be your girlfriend.
The Top 7 Rules for Choosing the Right Girlfriend
#1) She Must Be Pretty
Women are not perfect creatures who can do no wrong. They have their own strengths and weaknesses that are fine-tuned by millions of years of evolution. Just like any other living being, expect them to behave like how evolution has programmed them to behave.
Women almost always operate on auto-pilot. They are not rational creatures. They act on emotion, not logic. This will introduce countless problems in your life. No girl is exempt from this. When you get involved with a woman, you will have a set of problems in your life. There is no escaping from that. You will have to deal with a lot of girly bullshit that you don’t normally care about.
Ugly girls are not worth the trouble you will go through during a relationship. The juice will never be worth the squeeze. All women are solipsists. Every woman thinks the world is revolving around her. Trust me, there’s nothing more unnerving than an ugly girl who genuinely thinks the world revolves around her and she deserves the best of the best, just for being born a female.
If you are going to have a relationship with such a creature, at least make it worthwhile. A girl’s beauty will make up for some of her shortcomings but if you date an ugly girl, you will only get the troubles and nothing else. It’s not worth it. And remember, a fat girl with a pretty face is still an ugly girl. Don’t assume that if she lost weight she would be pretty.
Dating an ugly (or fat) girl will also ruin your reputation and self-esteem. You find hot girls “hot” for a reason. When you see a hot girl, every cell in your body screams “wow, she’s hot” because you are biologically programmed to procreate with the best genes to transfer to your children. Women never apologize for their evolutionary prerogatives and you should never do that either.
Getting a pretty girl is not easy. If it was easy, every man would have pretty wives or girlfriends which clearly is not the case. Never have self-defeating thoughts that you don’t deserve a pretty girl. A man has too many options to be attractive to women. Refuse to stoop low with girls. It’s better to not have a girlfriend than having a constant reminder of failure by your side. Put in the work. Improve yourself until you have enough self-confidence to regularly attract pretty girls to your life. Every man can do that, so you have no excuse.
#2) She Must Be Sweet
One of the best things about female nature is that they are born sweet. Men love love love sweet girls. I’m not even talking about sexuality. A sweet 5-year old girl or a sweet little old lady can easily melt a man’s heart. Men are suckers for female sweetness.
Being sweet is a survival strategy for women. Since we are suckers for female sweetness, they can get what they want from us by being sweet.
Somewhere along the way, some women lose their sweetness and become bitter cunts. It’s not your duty to fix these broken women. Your duty is to weed them out and find the ones that managed to preserve their sweetness. Remember, all girls are born sweet. A woman acting like a cunt is not even a real woman anymore. Cuntiness is not feminine and men are only attracted to femininity.
When I work all day and then go to the gym and then meet my girlfriend, the last thing I want to see is a sullen face. I want her to greet me with a smile.
You can easily figure out if she is a smiler and has a sweet personality. See if she smiles a lot during your date with her. Watch how she treats the waiters or the waitresses. Watch her interactions with other people. If she has a disrespectful, cuntish demeanor, ditch her.
#3) No Sluts
Sluts are not girlfriend or wife material. The more dicks she had in her, the less she will have the ability to pair-bond with you. Relationships are about bonding. Moreover, you don’t want to be the man who girlfriended or wifed her up when everybody else just pumped and dumped her.
Of course, you can’t fully know if she is a slut or not within a few dates. Girls instinctively know that sluts are low-value so they will try to hide it.
Look for slut tells. If she exhibits any of these red flags, she’s probably a slut, so avoid her.
#4) She Must Be Young
Women are prettier and healthier when they are younger. It’s a well-known fact that women age like milk and men age like wine.
A girl over 30 years of age has already left behind her best years. There’s no reason for you to have a relationship with an older woman. As I said, a girl must be an asset to your life, not a liability. An older woman is already a depreciated asset. Leave the older ones to losers.
In case your relationship with her leads to a marriage, a younger woman will bear healthier children.
Age is one of the easiest qualifiers to spot. You simply cannot fail with this one.
#5) She Must Have a Good Relationship with Her Family
A good girl will definitely have a good relationship with her father, mother, and siblings. Good families produce good kids. If she has troubles with her family, those problems are guaranteed to leak into your relationship with her.
Straight up, ask her about her family during one of your dates before you girlfriend her up. If she has familial problems, she will spill the beans because girls love to complain about their problems. If you don’t hear anything but praise and happiness about her family, ditch her.
#6) She Must Be Ready to Assume Your Leadership
Nature decided to assign men as leaders and women as followers. A woman must look up to her man for a relationship to work. She can’t respect a man that she doesn’t look up to.
Women never take responsibility for their decisions. If she makes a bad decision, she will accuse somebody else (most probably you) for the consequences. If you are going to be responsible for everything anyway, you might make all the decisions as well. I make all the decisions in my relationships with women. I can’t make the perfect decisions 100% of the time but at least I take responsibility for the consequences, learn from my mistakes and move on. Women never learn from their mistakes. They make a mistake, put the blame on others and continue doing the same mistakes over and over. Never put them in the position of a decision-maker. You can ask for her opinions but you always have the final say.
Some girls will be unwilling to follow the leadership of a man. These girls are broken. And remember, it’s not your duty to fix a broken woman.
You can screen for this (up to a point) during your dates. If she tries to change the date location you invited her or if she complains about your venue selection, you should immediately ditch her because she will definitely try to wear the pants in your relationship.
#7) She Must Be Willing to Cook and Clean
Another good thing about female nature is that they are nurturers. This, again, is fine-tuned by millions of years of evolution as to take care of their babies.
Every female is born as a nurturer. Watch how little girls play games when they are kids. They try to nurture dolls.
Personally, I don’t need a girl to cook or clean for me as I can put together a meal or eat out, and I can hire cleaning ladies to clean my apartment. Yet, I require my girlfriend to willingly do these things for me, simply because cooking and cleaning are reliable indicators of femininity. Men are always attracted to femininity. There is no reason to settle for a masculine woman.
Moreover, some relationships evolve into marriages. When you have kids with her, you don’t want your kids to be fed by another person when there’s your wife in the house. You don’t want your kids to eat unhealthy food out. You want your kids to be living in a clean home. So, she should clean and cook. Period.
Ask her if she enjoys cooking and cleaning during your date. She will tell you.
Don’t Ever Settle
There you have it. The 7 qualities I listed above are easy to figure out within a few dates. Don’t settle for less. If she doesn’t live up to your standards, ditch her. You can always find another girl.
If you didn’t come across a good girl yet, have no worries. A man never urgently needs a girlfriend. Just keep on banging sluts and keep improving your value. If you want a girlfriend and you come across a girl who meets the above requirements, you can girlfriend her up.
If you are unable to attract the kind of girls that you are attracted to, keep improving your value until you can attract them regularly.
Don’t forget to keep in mind that you must be a high-value man to expect your girls to comply with your high standards. Women want the top men. It’s better to build yourself up to be a high-value man than to complain about how life is unfair that women don’t want average men despite being average themselves.
Be sure to read:
- How to Overcome the Fear of Rejection
- Be a Better Man in 30 Days Program, Chapter 1: What Makes a Man a Better Man (The section on relationships)
- How to Get Over a Girl
- “I Can’t Stop Thinking About Her”: How to Cure Oneitis and Move On
- How to Stop Being Needy
- 21 Ways to Stop Being an Effeminate Modern Man and Be More Masculine