Men love watching porn for 2 reasons:
1) Sex is immensely pleasurable for a man because nature richly rewards a man for fulfilling his biological imperative.
2) Humans are hardwired to follow the path of the least resistance.
Sex is the bedrock of human existence because without it none of us would be alive.
Also, men are biologically hardwired to spread their seed as widely as possible which is why variety and novelty excite us.
Porn provides both the pleasure of sex (and the prospect of it, though falsely) and neverending variety and novelty.
The average teenager of today has seen more naked women than kings of the past with large harems.
When there’s an easier way to get something we want, we go for it instead of following a harder, thornier path.
Real-life sex is hard to attain because women, being the gatekeepers of sex, are picky and coy. Porn bypasses that hardship and transports us directly to pleasure.
Modern entrepreneurs combined the two items above and started producing porn which became hugely popular among men because they play directly into the hands of our biological wiring which makes it difficult for men to resist viewing porn.
You’re biologically prone to love watching porn. If you want to stop watching porn, you must make a conscious decision to do so because it won’t happen organically. It’s naive to expect you’ll somehow grow out of it because men are fertile until they die. You’ll never stop loving sex and you’ll definitely never stop seeking the path of the least resistance.
Before we get into the 10 reasons to stop watching porn, I want to make sure that this article is not intended for those of you who aren’t harmed in any way by their porn habit. If you watch porn every once in a while without letting it negatively influence your life then, congratulations on your iron will. You probably don’t need to quit watching porn.
But if you believe your porn watching has gone too far to the point of negatively influencing your life, that your porn habit has control over your life instead of the other way round, then this article is for you.
10 Reasons To Stop Watching Porn
1. Watching Porn Conditions You To Be A Loser (By Destroying Your Masculine Desire To Be A Winner)
Sex has historically been the greatest motivator for men to become winners because it’s the winners who always get the hottest women.
Losers are reduced to either settling for sub-par, undesirable, and leftover women who the winners don’t want, or getting no women at all.
Evolution programmed women to be attracted to winners because evolution operates by weeding out loser genes and propagating winner genes. Women are agents of evolution.
Nature put together a reward mechanism (sexual pleasure) to motivate men to seek sex, variety, and novelty while endowing women with the instincts to pick the winners.
Men’s drive to be winners and have sex with a variety of hot women combined with women’s instincts to pick the winners ensures that the genes of the winners make it to the next generation and loser genes are weeded out.
The rewards and the pleasure of real-life sex are supposed to motivate you to elevate your status, develop social skills, attract the kind of women you want, and have sex with them.
Porn hijacks this reward mechanism by tricking your brain into thinking sex is imminent and the variety and novelty are within your reach.
Since you’re also hardwired to follow the path of the least resistance, you find it easier to just watch porn and receive instant gratification instead of following the tough and thorny path of outcompeting your fellow men and emerging as a winner to earn the pleasure of having sex with the women you’re attracted to.
Hence, while the pursuit of real-life sex has tangible real-life benefits, watching porn provides nothing other than instant gratification, robbing you of your natural desire to become a winner who attracts women.
Resist the urge to give in to the temptation of the instant gratification porn provides, in favor of utilizing your natural drive to improve yourself, take risks, and develop the social skills to meet, attract and build relationships with real-life women you’re attracted to.
Embrace the delayed gratification of becoming a winner and attracting hot women in real life instead of the instant gratification of porn that bypasses the hardships to attain real-life sex and gives you a hollow climax that takes you nowhere.
It’s especially sad to see young men, teenagers, and men in their 20s getting caught on the loophole of watching porn while they could be spending their youthful energy to propel themselves to the top of the social hierarchy and enjoy the fruits of their labor for their entire lives once they establish their high status.
2. Watching Porn Is Addictive
Dopamine is a hormone and a neurotransmitter that is responsible for creating feelings of pleasure and reward in your brain.
Nature intended your brain’s dopamine-induced reward mechanism to motivate you towards behaviors to improve your chances of survival and reproduction.
Sex or the anticipation of sex causes a release of dopamine in your brain because, as we’ve covered above, nature wants you to reproduce. Otherwise, we’d find no reason to have sex and we’d go extinct.
Since dopamine is your brain’s vehicle to reward you, it’s also the foundation of addictions.
All addictions operate through the brain’s dopamine-induced reward mechanism, be it gambling, junk food, porn, alcohol, drugs, cigarettes, gaming, social media, and so on.
Unsurprisingly, comprehensive scientific research by neuroscientists concluded that “Internet pornography addiction fits into the addiction framework and shares similar basic mechanisms with substance addiction.”
All addictive products and substances are addictive because they remove the hard work out of the equation and transport you directly to pleasure.
Since nature intended dopamine to reward you for your achievements, dopamine is not the real culprit here. Dopamine is fine as long as you earn it.
The real culprit that causes addiction is cheating your brain’s reward mechanism to trick it into believing you’ve achieved something worthwhile when you didn’t.
Dopamine release, hence the pleasure, induced by real-life sex with a woman you desire is fine. That’s how nature intended to reward you with dopamine for sex because real-life sex promotes reproduction and ensures the transfer of winner genes to the next generation.
Since the pleasure from real-life sex is also caused by dopamine, sex addiction is a thing too but it’s only a problem for massively popular celebrities who have women lining up to have sex with them.
Unless you’re a celebrity, you have no reason to worry about sex addiction because sex with a consistent flow of new women is not realistic for an overwhelming majority of men.
Celebrities are an anomaly. Actually, their massive status bringing them an endless stream of women is proof that women will be lining up to have sex with you when they recognize you as a winner.
Porn, on the other hand, is readily available to every man with an internet connection.
The moment you jerk off to porn, you’ll feel hollow for a while and you’ll start to search for your next fix when your body is ready again for another porn-watching marathon.
Unless you decide to break it off for good, it’s an endless loop. Lots of men mistakenly think they’ll somehow grow out of their porn addiction but this is a pipe dream. A man is fertile until the day he dies so your sexual desires aren’t going away anytime soon.
Porn is an addiction and you can’t break your addictions without conscious decision.
Porn addiction will get you nowhere near accomplishing your goals and it will not automatically go away unless you decisively break yourself out of the vicious cycle.
3. Watching Porn Is Low-Key Cucking Yourself
Cucks jerk off while watching their woman have sex with another man.
While watching porn is not exactly cucking, jerking off to watching an attractive woman having sex with another man is eerily similar to how cucks jerk off to watching their woman have sex with another man.
4. Watching Porn Causes Weak Erections And Can Even Lead To Erectile Dysfunction
Just like drug addicts need increasingly higher doses of their drug of choice to attain the same level of high, porn addicts increasingly seek weirder scenes to maintain the same level of erection — a level which real-life sex can’t possibly come close.
Real-life sex starts to look increasingly boring and pales in comparison to what the porn addict sees on the screen.
The result is desensitization to real-life sex due to fried dopamine sensors which in turn leads to weak erections.
It’s not uncommon for porn-watching men to imagine their favorite porn star or porn scene just to maintain their erection during real-life sex.
Popping Viagra or Cialis before real-life sex is also not uncommon for porn addicts so that they can fake arousal by their real-life sex partner.
Doctors from all over the world keep reporting cases of erectile dysfunction due to porn consumption which should come by as no surprise considering the abuse of one’s dopamine sensors due to constant unnatural stimulation.
Quit watching porn and your erections will be stronger. You’ll also avoid porn-induced erectile dysfunction.
5. Watching Porn Causes Anxiety And Depression
All addictions lead to anxiety and depression.
An addict’s indulgence typically results in the highest of highs followed by the lowest of lows. This cycle repeats itself until the addict consciously decides to break out of his addiction.
Although not nearly as devastating as drug, alcohol, or gambling addiction, porn addiction follows a similar pattern.
You are in excitement when you’re watching porn scene after porn scene, followed by a feeling of hollowness after the moment you ejaculate. From the high of the excitement of watching porn to the low of post-ejaculation syndrome, reinforced by your awareness that you achieved nothing. Then you go through the same cycle again and again.
Here are the particular levels of how porn addiction causes anxiety and depression:
A Lack Of Discipline Causes Anxiety
One of the major causes of anxiety is a lack of discipline.
When you’re not working to set yourself up for a better future, you instinctively know your life is not getting any better. You are subconsciously aware that your life is about to become worse than it already is. Porn triggers anxiety because deep down you know you’re not doing anything to make your future better.
Confidence comes from being in control of your life. In the case of addiction, including porn addiction, you don’t control your life. Your addiction controls you. Whenever you don’t control your own destiny, you feel depressed and anxious.
Losing Focus And Patience Causes Anxiety
Porn consumption causes you to lose your focus and patience, which in turn triggers anxiety and depression.
Sex is supposed to come by hard for a man. You must work on yourself to become an attractive man, which invariably includes improving yourself to elevate your status, talking to women and improving your social skills, risking the sting of rejection, etc.
Porn necessitates none of that. It’s available to anyone with an internet connection. Who needs the patience to do the work if a shortcut to pleasure is readily available?
But, deep down, you know you’re not fooling yourself. Jerking off to porn is not an achievement. You get your dopamine fix but you know you just misused that dopamine which was supposed to motivate you to elevate your status and access serotonin, the ultimate happiness hormone which is exclusive to high-status, successful men.
Your body instinctively knows you wasted the dopamine that’s supposed to motivate you to compete and win. Instead, you jacked off to porn and accomplished nothing. Not only you’ve accomplished nothing but you’ve also killed your desire to accomplish anything.
You chose instant gratification which invites ruin instead of delayed gratification which invites greatness. And that causes anxiety and depression.
Watching Porn Reinforces Social Anxiety
Porn consumption correlates to social anxiety. Whether porn is the result of social anxiety or the cause of it doesn’t matter because anyone who doesn’t invest in the time and effort to develop social skills will remain socially anxious for life.
Building relationships with real women in real life requires social skills. Social anxiety is the opposite of what you need to connect with the kind of women you’re attracted to. Watching porn makes it less likely for you to pursue real-life sex which causes your social anxiety issues to go unaddressed.
There’s no moment in life when you don’t need social skills because humans are social animals and you’ll crave social interaction no matter how strongly you deny it.
Furthermore, the more time you spend watching hyper-real content, the less you can relate to people in real life.
Men who successfully quit watching porn often report improved self-confidence.
Confidence is the number one trait that attracts women. Women can smell your confidence from miles away. Improving your self-confidence automatically improves your attractiveness.
Stop watching porn and start socializing. There are a lot of great people out there. Building connections with these great people will help you live a better and richer life.
6. Watching Porn Devours Your Most Valuable Asset: Time
Men are hardwired to spread their seed. Coined as the Coolidge Effect, men are excited by novelty.
Porn can be extremely time-consuming because it perfectly plays into our biological urge to pursue novelty.
There’s an endless number of new scenes and different naked women to discover. A man on a porn site is like a kid in a candy shop. Watching one scene after the other, seeing one naked hot woman after the other, you feel like you’re in paradise. Except, it’s a fake paradise that doesn’t exist in your reality.
Eventually, the time comes when novelty is even more exciting than the substance itself. As you get more and more addicted to porn, much of your time spent on porn will be wasted searching for the perfect scene rather than actually watching a scene instead.
Hours on end are spent in front of a screen, searching for the perfect scene and the sexiest woman with nothing worthwhile getting done. What a waste.
Life is shorter than you think. Decades pass in the blink of an eye and you’ll wonder what the hell you’ve been doing all along. Father time is merciless. He will remorselessly consume you and weed you out.
Time is your most precious asset because once you waste it there’s no getting it back. Money can be made back but time can’t. Before you know it, you’ll grow old wondering what the hell you did with all the time in your hands.
Your time is running out. Once you run out of enough time, you die. Do something productive with your time instead of wasting it watching porn.
Internet porn is a bottomless pit that will devour your time if you let it. How many thousands of lifetimes do you think you need if you set out to watch all the existing porn on the Internet?
Unless you decide to stop it at some point, it will continue to eat up on your time until you die or lose your potency.
7. By Watching Porn, You Squander The Potential Of The Greatest Invention Since The Printing Press
The invention of the printing press reshaped the world.
Old power centers that oppressed the population were destroyed. People of the world gained more agency over their own lives as the invention of the printing press gave birth to enlightenment.
The invention of the internet has been causing a tectonic shift in the power centers of the world. The internet has already spawned more millionaires than the previous century combined. The internet has become the number one agent of upward mobility and we’ve barely scratched the surface of its potential.
Nothing else comes close to the power of the internet which empowered the average guy more than any other invention.
By using the internet for watching porn, you’re squandering an opportunity that our ancestors could only have dreamed of.
Porn is a product. When you watch porn, you consume someone else’s product while you could either be educating yourself with the readily available resources on the internet or you could use that time to build your own products and make money instead of making someone else rich by consuming their products.
Why not use the time you would waste watching internet porn on educating yourself online or building your own digital products that can potentially bring you financial freedom and location independence, all the while doing exciting things in real life, including having sex with hot women?
8. Watching Porn Is A Tacit Confession You Can’t Get Hot Women And An Affirmation Of Your Beta Male Status
When the alpha chimpanzee mates with all the females in the tribe, beta chimpanzees are reduced to quietly masturbating on the side. Granted, we’re not chimpanzees but we have more genetic commonalities than differences with primates.
Nothing is a louder confession that you are unable to get hot women to have sex with you than passively sitting down behind a screen and watching other men have sex with hot women.
Why it isn’t you who’s having sex with hot women? What’s stopping you?
Every time you jerk off to porn, you affirm your beta male status that you are not the kind of man that gets hot women but the kind of men reduced to having to watch other men have sex with hot women as if it’s the closest you can come to sexual relationships with hot women. It’s a confession that you can’t get the real thing.
Porn watchers often lie to themselves that watching porn is more pleasurable than the real thing but in reality, it doesn’t even come close.
Sex is never about just sex. Having consensual sex with a hot woman is an affirmation of your winner status.
The same scene you’re jacking off to can be watched by any man in the world no matter how low-value he is.
But women, especially attractive women, don’t have sex with low-value men.
The pleasure of watching porn doesn’t even come close to the physical and psychological satisfaction you get from consensual real-life sex with an attractive woman.
That watching porn is something most men hide from others due to shame is proof that men instinctively know watching porn isn’t an achievement.
Men universally love to brag about the women they had sex with. I’m yet to see a man brag about watching porn. It’s more of something to be ashamed of. Something men hide from others.
There are countless books on how to attract women but have you seen any books written on how to watch more porn? Me neither.
Search for how to quit porn and you’ll find thousands of books, articles, and videos. Men want to quit.
9. Porn Is Fake And Unnatural
We’re not biologically wired to handle the kind of variety and novelty porn offers.
Humans have populated the planet for hundreds of thousands of years. Human nature is shaped through an evolutionary process that dictates how you behave.
Real-life can’t possibly measure up to the variety and novelty porn provides and the sexual performance it depicts.
Even the kings and emperors of the past with large harems didn’t have the access to the kind of variety and the novelty that’s readily available today to anyone with an internet connection.
This leads to various problems on various levels.
There’s More To Life Than Sex
The ubiquity of internet porn and the variety it provides boosts the time spent over the sexual dimension of a man’s life, which pretty much guarantees the other dimensions to go neglected.
Watching porn takes away your ability to live a balanced, satisfactory life.
It’s no surprise that wives and kids of porn addicts often report feeling neglected, which they probably are.
Watching Porn Warps Your Perception Of Real-Life Sex
Porn actors are either outliers or they use some tricks to last a lot longer than the average man but it’s neither natural to replicate their performance nor it’s necessary.
Porn also skews your real-life expectations of women. A high-quality woman offers an array of qualities that go far beyond just sexuality. Sex is just one aspect of satisfactory relationships.
A man addicted to porn can jump into a relationship with a hot woman, glossing over her obvious defects.
A woman might very well be hot but otherwise a pain in the ass in a relationship. You must screen her for other qualities than her looks to see if she’s relationship material. A hot woman with a bad personality can turn your life into a living hell.
Watching Porn Makes You Impatient With Women
Ask any master seducer and he’ll tell you that women need to feel comfortable with a man before she decides to have sex with him.
Men don’t seek such comfort. We’re perfectly fine with having sex with an attractive woman without getting to know her.
Porn conditions you to go directly for sex which makes it more difficult to handle real-life interactions with women. You must spend enough time with her until she’s comfortable with you. This comfort stage can’t be skipped. It’s in her nature.
Since you can’t change human nature, you’d better get good at connecting with a woman on an emotional level and become a master of establishing enough rapport with her so that she’s comfortable with having sex with you.
10. Watching Porn Is An Escape From Your Real-Life Problems
Sexual pleasure is not the only reason why men watch porn.
Lots of men report watching porn just out of boredom. It’s something to do when they have nothing else to do.
Modern humans despise boredom but it’s a necessary agent of growth.
Boredom happens for a reason. It’s either a sign that you must do something about your life, which is the case for porn consumption, or it’s a by-product of a creative process.
Watching porn is not a creative process. When it’s resorted to as a means to relieve boredom, it acts as an escape from real-life problems.
Even if you don’t have serious real-life problems, boredom to be relieved by porn is still a problem because you could use the time you waste by watching porn on creating money and freedom that allows you to do exciting things in life.
10 Tips On How To Stop Watching Porn
1. Don’t Overeat
People from all over the world are in an eternal search for foods that increase libido.
The reality is that the food that increases your libido is any food that tips you over a caloric surplus.
Libido is directly correlated to excess calories, both energy-wise and psychologically. Eating too many calories makes you horny.
When you’re trying to stop watching porn, being horny all the time will make it harder for you to push through the most difficult first few days or weeks of porn abstinence.
The number one killer of libido is a caloric deficit.
Surplus calories increase libido in 2 ways.
- More calories mean more energy. When you have more energy, you’ll be hornier.
- When you’re on a caloric surplus, your psychological priorities shift from finding food to finding sex. Your first biological priority is to find food. If enough food is ensured, then you can move on to looking for sex. Humans are motivated first by survival, then by reproduction. Everything you do in life revolves around these two.
When you’re in a caloric deficit, you’ll have less energy and sex will be relegated to a lower rank in your biological priorities.
I recommend going on a caloric balance or caloric deficit, especially for the first days/weeks of your porn abstinence until your new habit has a chance to stick.
If you’re already overweight, you can go on a fat loss diet until your porn abstinence habit sticks, all the while you’re losing fat. Talk about killing two birds with a stone.
2. Use Website Blockers To Block All Of Your Favorite Internet Porn Sites
Just like people who want to lose weight make it a point to not buy junk food so that they are less likely to eat them due to a moment of weakness, make it harder to access porn so that you don’t let moments of weakness make you go back to your porn habit.
Humans don’t naturally have strong willpower. Remember, we’re hardwired to seek the path of least resistance. When pleasure is readily available, we’re biologically programmed to take advantage of it.
Introduce friction. Don’t delegate all of the work to your willpower. Let the website blockers do the work for you.
Block all of your favorite porn sites so that you’re less likely to stray due to a moment of weakness. Many website blockers either come with a built-in list of porn sites to block or you can find lists of porn sites on the Internet that you can upload to your website blocker.
3. Delete Your Porn Archive
I know it’s hard to say goodbye to your beloved Kelsie Monroe, Lisa Ann, Kendra Lust, or whoever your favorite pornstar is but just delete your porn archive so that you won’t revisit your favorite scenes in a moment of weakness in case your favorite porn sites are blocked but your porn archive is readily available.
4. Exercise
We’ve talked about how porn addiction is related to dopamine and also that men watch porn not always because they are horny but because they are just bored.
Exercise is not only an excellent source of dopamine but it’s also a legit dopamine source because it provides earned dopamine.
Remember, there’s nothing wrong with earned dopamine. Problems emerge when you short-circuit your brain’s dopamine-induced reward system. In other words, exercise provides delayed gratification while porn provides instant gratification.
Moreover, exercise relieves boredom.
If you’re bored and feel like watching porn, you can exercise instead. If you’ve already exercised that day, you can go out for a walk and burn a few extra calories.
As a bonus, exercise will potentially get you in great shape and increase the likelihood that you’ll attract hotter women.
I recommend strength training because no other type of exercise comes close to the benefits it provides.
5. Talk To Attractive Women In Real Life
Instead of watching attractive women have sex on screen, go out and talk to them. You might very well attract some of them and even if you don’t, you’ll improve your social skills by talking to them.
Social skills are necessary anyway if you want to have real-life sex with real-life women. If one interaction goes south you can always utilize your improved social skills for the next interaction.
6. Don’t Replace Your Porn Addiction With Another Addiction
Don’t turn to another instantly gratifying, addictive activity, say, drinking or playing video games to fill in the time you’ve gained by quitting porn.
There are lots of productive things to do other than unproductive addictions.
The discipline to pursue delayed gratification instead of instant gratification will serve you well for life.
7. Get Busy
Men love sex but we also love to build things.
Use the time you spare by quitting porn to build something valuable, preferably a business.
Besides the satisfaction it provides, building something valuable is also a vehicle to elevate your status.
Builders get rich and independent all the time. Become one and women will want to be with you.
8. Don’t Think Quitting Porn Is A Herculean Task
The more you think you’re about to accomplish a herculean task by quitting porn, the more you’ll put it off until the perfect time. There will never be a perfect time.
Porn follows a similar neurological path with every other addiction but it’s nowhere near as serious as drug addiction.
If there are people on this planet who managed to quit hard drugs, you can sure as hell quit watching porn.
Withdrawal symptoms are barely noticeable if there’s one at all.
Moreover, porn has existed for only 50 or so years, Internet porn even less, which is only a blip in human history.
Hundreds of thousands of human generations didn’t have porn in their lives and they did just fine. You’re not doing something heroic by not watching porn.
Take it easy. You’re neither missing out on anything important nor you’re doing something hard to do.
Also, don’t expect your life to miraculously be perfect. The world was filled to the brim with losers when porn didn’t exist. Be proud of yourself but don’t expect quitting porn to make you a winner somehow. You still have to do the work.
You are a sovereign man and taking full control of your life is something you nonchalantly do.
Framing it as a big deal, a heroic act will also harm you should you slip, which brings us to our next point:
9. If You Slip, Restart
If you slip, don’t beat yourself up. Just go back to not watching porn.
You’ll probably regret watching porn after you jerk off so it will be a no-brainer anyway to go back to not watching porn.
10. Try How to Be a Superior Man Program
A sovereign man is in full control of his life. Quitting porn is part of it but it takes a lot more than not watching porn to turn your life around.
I’ve prepared an intensive 30-day program for men who want to be superior men. It includes abstinence from porn for 30 days along with other awesome stuff. Give it a shot.
Conclusion
Now excuse me while I go back to watching porn on this computer where I wrote this article.
Just kidding.
But I could have easily had a porn-watching marathon instead of writing this article yet I didn’t. I produced content for my website instead of consuming content other people produced. See how it works?
Writing is hard, as I am sure it is the case for producing other kinds of content. Watching porn is easy.
Remember, if it’s easy it’s not worth doing. Do what’s hard instead of what’s easy.
Stop watching porn and start winning in real life.
Be sure to read:
- How to Be a Superior Man, Chapter 5: Recruit The Power Of Self-Control
- How to Be a Superior Man, Chapter 2: What Makes A Man A Superior Man
- How To Quit Playing Video Games
- 5 Reasons Why You Should Stay Away From Sports Betting And Online Gambling
- 21 Ways to Stop Being an Effeminate Modern Man and Be More Masculine
- Dopamine Fasting 3.0: How to Get Motivated to Succeed in Real Life