There are 2 kinds of people: Men and women.
If you are a man you should be masculine. If you are a woman you should be feminine.
Masculinity and femininity are both good. Masculinity is good for men. Femininity is good for women. Men being masculine and women being feminine is good for mankind.
We live in strange times. Too many women are trying to be masculine and too many men are feminine.
A masculine man is an asset to his community and family, whereas a feminine man is a liability.
Masculinity isn’t toxic. All the modern comforts we enjoy are the fruits of masculinity.
Masculinity is what makes a man different than a woman.
Here are the top 10 traits of masculine men:
You are fully responsible for the direction of your life. If you aren’t controlling the direction of your life, other people who don’t have your best interests at heart are controlling it.
Men are problem solvers. Passively waiting for things to happen is feminine. You should take full responsibility for each and every one of your needs and problems.
Are you poor? It’s your responsibility to make money. Women can marry a rich man and shortcut the required work to get rich but you don’t have that option.
Are you fat? It’s your responsibility to lose fat. Women may complain that men should desire “curvy” women or rationalize their obesity with bullshit slogans like body positivity. They will even find supporters for their avoidance of responsibility. Men can’t do that. Nobody gives a shit about men.
Are you unable to get laid? Your nature demands you to consistently desire sex but nobody cares if you get laid or not. Even your mother and father aren’t losing an iota of sleep for you can’t get laid. You can’t wait like women for someone to approach you. It’s your responsibility to go out and find a woman to have sex with.
Take full responsibility for the direction of your life. Anything less is feminine behavior.
Men are made, women are born. Men have to master things, women get free rides. Don’t get angry at women for having it easy. Women can’t afford to spend years on mastery because their fertility declines rapidly after the age of 25.
Men are equipped with the necessary raw material to achieve mastery. Mastery is achieved through consistent hard work. There’s no free lunch for a man. A man who doesn’t strive for mastery is bound to remain a man-child.
Confidence is forged through mastery. Mastery is achieved through self-improvement.
The truth is the truth whether you acknowledge it or not. If you know the truth you can make it work for you. If you ignore the truth it will come to bite your ass.
Women can’t handle the truth. That’s why they are into nonsense things like astrology. Women even feel offended by the truth. Truth is often ugly but a masculine man isn’t afraid of it. If you can’t handle the truth, you are a woman, not a man.
Women let their emotions guide them. They can often afford to be emotional because there are always men to bail them out of trouble. You can’t afford that as a man. Nobody bails a man out. A man should always strive to use his faculty of logic to guide his behaviors or he is bound to be screwed.
Men are equipped to figure out how things work. That’s not done by emotion. That’s done by reason, education, and objectivity.
When you figure things out, it’s not scary to fly an airplane or walk on the moon. Men didn’t achieve these things by surrendering to their emotions. They did it by figuring out the cold, hard facts about how the world works.
A man should be strong, both physically and mentally.
Physical strength is one of the unique characteristics of masculinity. Men have 10-20 times more testosterone than women. Testosterone helps men to be muscular and strong. Nobody cares if a woman is physically weak because nobody expects a woman to be physically strong.
A physically weak man is pathetic. A limpwrist can’t defend himself, his loved ones or his territory in case of a physical altercation. Physical strength is achieved through proper strength training. Building muscle isn’t easy but it can be fast if you know what you are doing. Men don’t have an excuse when 2 years of strength training can set them for life.
Mental strength is also a male territory. Women easily cry and fold under pressure. A masculine, mentally strong man can withstand pressure. When the going gets tough, the tough get going.
A mentally weak man is soft. He appeases, apologizes and takes permission.
A mentally strong man is tough. He doesn’t appease, stands his ground, and doesn’t bother with getting permission for what he wants. He goes and gets it.
Risk-taking, boldness, decisiveness, adventurousness, and taking action are all masculine qualities all of which require courage.
Masculine men are risk-takers. Women don’t like taking risks. Risk-taking is a must for anybody who wants to achieve any kind of freedom, including financial freedom.
Masculine men are decisive. Women hate making decisions. Decisiveness is crucial because when you dilly-dally, you don’t move forward.
Masculine men are bold. Women are not. Boldness is required to leave your comfort zone.
Masculine men take action. Women wait. Nothing will fall into a man’s lap. Taking action is a must for getting what you want.
A masculine man should always be self-reliant. Women run to other men or authorities to solve their problems but men cannot do that. It’s a strategy that works only if you are a woman. Nobody cares about the problems of men.
Don’t wait for the authorities or the politicians to solve your problems. Solve your own problems by yourself.
Avoid following leaders. A masculine man is a leader, not a follower.
Self-reliance is essential for achieving independence. Women can depend on men because they are vulnerable especially when they are pregnant or have kids to raise. But men don’t have an excuse. A man always has to fend for himself.
Success is not an event. It’s a process. Persistence is an absolute must to achieve success. A masculine man pushes through failures, doesn’t give up easily, and persists until he succeeds, whereas a feminine man quits at the first sign of trouble.
Women have a limited shelf life, so they can’t afford to persist for years to reach their goals. Women reach their goals indirectly, through men.
Men need to persist until they overcome obstacles and succeed. Remember, one success erases all the previous failures.
Lots of men support sports teams because they love competency. If their favorite sports team wins, they derive pleasure as if they won a victory by themselves.
The reason for men’s addiction to video games is the same. Men love to compete with other men and win.
Women can fake supporting sports teams or video game addiction but it’s not real. They actually don’t give a damn about sports or video games. They do it for attracting the attention of men.
Supporting sports teams or playing video games are great ways for a man to waste his masculine potential. He is squandering his innate desire to compete and win, with virtual preoccupations which don’t have any tangible real-life benefits.
A masculine man channels his need to compete and win to real-life activities which have net positive benefits to enhance his well-being.
The army is the most striking example of a place where the power of discipline shines.
It’s no coincidence that armies have always been male-dominated spaces.
War is a life and death situation and the undisciplined army is bound to lose the war.
A masculine man can’t afford to be undisciplined. If you sleep and wake up erratically, you will have a hard time organizing your life. If you don’t have a work schedule, you will not get things done. If you don’t have a diet discipline you will get fat. If you don’t have a solid training routine, you will never be strong.
Discipline is an absolute must for the masculine man. There’s no other option.
Have you ever heard the phrase “She is a woman of her word”? Me neither. Women make their minds through their emotions. Since emotions are fleeting, they constantly change their minds.
You have heard the phrase “He is a man of his word” though, right?
A masculine man is a man of his word. A man who can’t keep his word is not a real man. He is an embarrassment to himself, his family and his community.
Honesty, sincerity, loyalty, and integrity are all honorable masculine traits every man should have.
Be sure to check out my resources on masculinity:
- Be a Better Man in 30 Days Program, action-driven self-improvement program for men to strengthen all of your masculine traits
- 21 Ways to Stop Being an Effeminate Modern Man and Be More Masculine
- What Does It Mean to Be a Man?
- Is That The Man You Want To Be?