1. You are fat
There’s no better way to shoot yourself in the foot than being fat.
Being fat guarantees unattractiveness even when you have excellent genetics. Humans feel a visceral disgust for fat people. Fat is unhealthy. When you are fat you are unable to exercise and sleep properly. Being fat severely diminishes the quality of your life.
Solution: Lose fat
2. You are physically weak
Muscular men are admired by women and respected by men. Strong men are more confident, more attractive and healthier than weak men. If you are not training for strength you are leaving a lot of what life has to offer on the table.
Solution: Build muscle
3. You wait
There’s never a perfect time. Losers wait for good things to happen to them. Winners don’t wait. They take action and make good things happen.
4. You hope
Hope is not a plan. Losers hope that the economy is good, their boss doesn’t fire them, their significant other doesn’t leave them, they win the lottery, their favorite politician wins the election and so on. Winners don’t hope. They always have a plan.
Solution: Bet on yourself
5. You don’t dress well
Wearing ill-fitting, wrinkled or dirty clothes is the equivalent of walking around with a neon sign over your head that says “Look! I have zero respect for myself. You shouldn’t respect me either”.
Solution: Dress well
6. You believe education ends after graduation
The majority of what you learn at school is brainwashing and propaganda. Not only you should keep educating yourself as long as you are alive, but also you should unlearn many things you learned at school. And no. Watching TV and reading newspapers isn’t education. Following the news not only fails to educate you but it also sets you up for failure in life.
Solution: Memorize the words “I don’t know” and never stop educating yourself
7. You think short term
Losers look for instant gratification, winners look for delayed gratification. Chasing the easy fix almost always ends up bad. Delayed gratification requires grit, discipline, and persistence which builds character.
8. You take advice from the wrong people
Losers stay losers because they build their lives on the advice they receive from other losers. The reality is, 99.9% of the people are unqualified to give advice.
Solution: Stop taking advice from people who are unqualified to give advice
9. You believe money is evil
Money doesn’t have bad intentions, good intentions or emotions. Money is just a tool. When you treat it right, it will buy you one of the most valuable assets a man can have: Freedom.
Solution: Make money
10. You are not ambitious
People in power don’t want you to be ambitious because they don’t want you to claim your share of the resources they control and enjoy.
11. You live in the wrong city/country
I grew up in a small city. The business opportunities were scarce. Girls were vapid, bitchy and difficult. There wasn’t an international airport located nearby. I moved to better cities and better countries where I had better odds to reach my goals.
12. You think you are unlucky
Luck is where preparation meets opportunity. Success is not an event. It’s the result of millions of repeated small actions that add up. It has nothing to do with luck.
Solution: Watch what you repeatedly do
13. You complain
Complaining may solve your problems if you are a woman or a kid. But no one gives a damn about the problems of men. Complaining never solves a man’s problems.
Solution: Accept that every problem in your life is your own fault and start working on solving them
14. You have unresolved past issues
World-famous professor of psychology Jordan Peterson says that if you have a memory which is older than 18 months and it still continues to bother you today, you are carrying it like a weight. You shouldn’t be thinking about your past.
Solution: Resolve your past issues and move on
15. You don’t know what you want
People will have no problem wasting 20 hours a week watching TV but they never take the time to sit down and write their future plans. If you ask people what their future plans are, 99.9% of them will only come up with vague, weak and superficial blabber. Don’t be most people.
16. You pay the price for the mistakes other people make
Making mistakes is ok. You can’t go about your life without making mistakes. Paying the price for your mistakes is good and necessary because you will learn valuable lessons from them. What you should be avoiding at all costs is paying the price for the mistakes other people make. Life already makes you pay dearly for your mistakes. There’s absolutely no reason why you should assume the price of other people’s mistakes.
Solution: Learn how to avoid paying the price for the mistakes other people make
17. You have a 9 to 5 job
Exchanging 5 days of your life in return for just 2 days is a bad deal. When you work a 9-5 job, you are guaranteed to sell yourself short because if you didn’t create more value than the paycheck you receive, your boss would fire you.
Solution: Build your own business
18. You play by the rules
If you play by the rules, you will get married before your sexual market value peaks, have kids whose future you will constantly worry about, get stuck in a place you don’t want to live and go in debt which will severely restrict your freedom and threaten your sanity. The rules of modern society are designed to render men as mules.
Solution: Make your own rules
19. You have a victim mentality
If you think that your station in life is because of your family, the government, your boss, him, her or whoever else, you have a victim mentality. A victim mentality will fill you with resentment, helplessness, and self-pity. None of these are masculine.
Solution: Get rid of the victim mentality. Accept that life is unfair and declare yourself solely responsible for your station in life.
20. You are a pussy
Taking risks is a must if you want to live a fabulous life. The average man is a pussy who is scared to death of taking risks. That risk-averseness reflects on his miserable life. Note that I’m not talking about stupid risks here. Gambling away your savings at Las Vegas is a stupid risk. On the other hand, building a business or approaching the women you like are intelligent risks that will eventually get you money and girls.
Solution: Take intelligent risks
21. You stopped living for yourself
The typical modern man is taught to put the needs of others before his own needs. If you don’t care about your needs, no one else will.
Solution: Make yourself great again
22. Your posture is weak
Your posture matters both for how other people perceive and treat you and how your hindbrain perceives your status in the world. Men with weak postures have a hard time succeeding in life.
23. You don’t travel abroad
If you don’t travel abroad then you are missing lots of opportunities to realize your potential. Traveling abroad will broaden your horizons, increase your odds of finding better women, boost your status as a man, help you build new life skills, discover your strengths and weaknesses and motivate you to make more money.
Solution: Travel abroad
24. You are emotional
I see many modern men who let their emotions guide them throughout their lives. That’s a big mistake to make. Men are born with the capability to reason. Don’t waste it.
Solution: Act with logic, not emotion
25. You fear loneliness
Men do all kinds of mistakes because they fear loneliness. There are men who get married because they don’t want to be a lonely old man. They don’t travel abroad because they are scared to do it alone. They don’t build businesses because they can’t stand long hours of loneliness working on their business.
The ability to deal with loneliness is a masculine quality. Women can’t deal with loneliness because they are not meant to be alone. If you can’t deal with loneliness you are not a real man, you are essentially a woman.
Solution: Embrace your loneliness
Be sure to read:
- Be a Better Man in 30 Days Program, Chapter 2: Take Control of the Direction of Your Life
- 24 Ways to Get Rid of the Victim Mentality and Adopt a Victor Mentality
- 10 Unrealistic Expectations About Life That Will Destroy You
- How to Overcome the Fear of Rejection
- “I’m not good at anything” – How to Stop Feeling Inferior