The truth about women is often not pretty, but the truth is the truth whether you accept it or not. Ignore the truth at your peril.
I had built my life on the lies I was told. As a result, I hated my life.
Luckily, I discovered the red pill, put some of the teachings into practice and saved my own life.
The following pieces of red pill truth get my stamp of approval. I use them in my daily life with resounding success.
#1) Women Want the Top Men
Women are hypergamous. They want a man better than themselves. The Pareto principle applies to the modern relationships between men and women. Top 20% of the men fuck 80% of the women.
If you are an average man, you stand little chance in the modern sexual marketplace.
Luckily, improving yourself and becoming one of the top men is not easy but possible with consistent and intelligent action.
#2) Don’t Put Women on a Pedestal
A woman can’t respect a man who puts her on a pedestal. She wants the top men. Not a man who places her above himself.
Putting a woman on a pedestal is an extremely common mistake. Men do it all the time due to reasons such as social conditioning, inexperience, and scarcity mentality.
If you put a woman on a pedestal she will hate you for that. Women don’t explicitly say this because they want a man who gets it without being told.
Related: How to Get Over a Girl
#3) Have an Abundance Mentality
There are billions of women on the planet and every day millions of girls are turning 18. All women are more or less the same and even when you have high standards, there are still millions of women who can meet them.
Scarcity mentality with women causes men to put up with bad behaviors of women, put them on pedestals, hitting on women at the workplace/social circle hence risking their career and social value, and settling with mediocre women.
#4) Modern Marriage Is a Bad Deal for Men
Divorce rates are historically high, the government and courts are on her side, the culture encourages and applauds her to get divorced on a whim.
Gone are the days when girls kept their virginity for their husbands.
For the modern man, the only reason to get married is to have kids. If you must have kids don’t do it at a young age (eg: in your 20s), and do try to find a workaround to have kids without getting married. If you can’t, at least check if getting prenups actually works in your country/state and get a prenup if so.
#5) Looks Matter
The fact that women value male looks less than men value female looks doesn’t mean your looks don’t matter. Women still value male looks and looking good has further benefits than just attracting women.
The number one way to look better is to get lean and build muscle. If you have a great body, even a 5$ t-shirt can look great on you. If you are not muscular you are leaving pussy on the table. Period.
Building muscle isn’t easy but it happens fast when you have a solid training routine and you know what you are doing. Bodyweight training is the best, fastest, and cheapest way to start building muscle. If you need a proven bodyweight training routine, check out my program Ripped with Bodyweight. If you follow it to the letter, you will get strong fast.
After you build your foundation with bodyweight training, switch to lifting weights to add mass to the foundation you built with bodyweight training.
Your teeth, hairstyle, wardrobe, cleanliness, posture, all of these things matter. The way you present yourself to the outer world will pay dividends if you do it right.
Don’t let genetic disadvantages to stop you such as being short or bald.
Height doesn’t matter as much as you might think.
Also, some of the most prolific womanizers I know of are bald.
#6) Feminism is a Trap
Modern women are the most pampered group of people in the history of humankind and yet they still want more.
Women hate beta males but they keep extracting resources from them through the government without giving anything in return.
If you are a tax-paying average male in a western nation, you are essentially paying other people to shit on you.
The average male is a beta male. Contrary to popular opinion, every man can improve himself and become an alpha male. Alpha means first. If you improve yourself enough to join the ranks of the top men, voila, you are an alpha male which means you are at the top of the hierarchy.
Every man has the internal resources (his innate masculine qualities) to do that. You have no excuse to be an average male.
#7) Age-Appropriate Dating is a Joke
Men age like wine, women age like milk. A man is fertile until the day he dies, provided that he takes good care of his health.
Age-appropriate dating is shoved down your throat because the modern women want to party and ride the cock carousel until they are old and still be able to find a high-value man no matter their age.
Don’t fall into this trap. No matter how society conditions them, women love older men. I’m 42 years old and all my women in the past 5 years were between the ages 18-28. I date younger women because I can. If I can do it, you can do it too. Don’t let the society shame you into dating older women you don’t desire.
#8) Be Unapologetically Masculine
Women are attracted to masculinity. Your wishes, desires, aspirations are all parts of being a healthy man. You can do anything you want unless you break the law.
Masculinity is not toxic, as they try to brand it. The modern western society hates masculinity. If you strive to conform to their standards you will end up as a dickless wimp.
Eat red meat, lift weights, travel the world and bang young-hot-tight girls, if these are the things that you want. It’s your life and the world is your oyster.
#9) Don’t Settle
Never be in a relationship with a woman because you lack options.
If you are considering a relationship with a woman, ask yourself this: “Do I really have numerous other options?”
If she seems like your only viable option, then you are settling. In this case, you should avoid her and start working to build yourself up to a high-value man with plenty of options.
Same goes for the other areas of your life. Your location, friends, family, job, etc. If you are putting up with these only because you lack other options, then you are settling.
#10) Embrace Rejection
Hot women don’t approach men (unless you are a rock star).
If you want hot women, you must do the approaching.
Approach anxiety is caused by the fear of rejection. If you are certain that you will not get rejected, you will confidently approach her with no fear whatsoever.
But the real world doesn’t work like that. Even the most desirable men face rejection. Rejection is a natural part of being a man. Embrace it.
Better, use rejection as a feedback mechanism to improve yourself.
#11) Your Past Doesn’t Have to Determine Your Future
There’s no denying that all healthy men want success with the women they desire. Yet, the men who had consistent success with hot women in their past are rare. Most men are not naturally good with women.
If you didn’t have success with women in the past, it doesn’t mean you can’t do it later in your life. Don’t use the past as an excuse for defeatism.
Most of the modern man’s beliefs about himself are not real.
If you don’t have success with women, yet, you can always reject your lot, build yourself up and start having the success you want.
The game doesn’t end until you bite the dust.
#12) Up Your Inner Game
Your inner game is what matters the most when it comes to attracting women and pretty much everything else in life.
If you have an unshakable sense of self-worth, you will succeed in life, including success with women.
We are culturally conditioned to care about the opinions of others about us. From early ages on, we are taught to seek the approval of others. This conditioning is designed to make you obey.
The opinions of others about you don’t determine your self-worth. Not even close. What determines your self-worth is your opinions about yourself. It’s crucial to sort yourself out and up your inner game.
#13) Ignore What Women Say, Only Watch What They Do
Women say one thing and go do the exact opposite.
They say they like to be treated nice, yet they go date jerks. They say they don’t like muscular men, yet go bang them, and so on.
To be fair, women are not the only ones doing this, but they take it to a whole another level.
Don’t take relationship advice from women. They will steer you wrong. Women want men who get it without them having to explain what they really want.
#14) Principles of Economics Apply to the Sexual Market
The good old laws of supply and demand apply to the sexual market as well.
Women and men who are in demand can price themselves high (metaphorically speaking, of course).
Men in demand can afford to require high standards from their women. You can build yourself up to be a man in demand if you are not already one.
Related: How to Choose the Right Girlfriend
#15) Women Behave Differently In Different Cultures
Most men are not happy with the women of their country. American men hate American women, British men hate British women, Russian men hate Russian women and so on.
I noticed, too, that while the behaviors of men are more fairly consistent among cultures, the behavior of women differs vastly in different cultures although the framework remains the same.
This means, if you are not happy with the women of your country, you can move to another country where the women suit better to your tastes.
The grass is really greener in some places. You have to find them.
#16) Women Hate Timid Men
As the saying goes, “Girls already have a pussy, they don’t need another one.”
Being nice is often confused with being timid.
Timid men consider themselves as being nice and they conclude that being nice doesn’t work with women.
Actually, being nice works beautifully in many cultures (such as the Philippines) but being timid doesn’t work anywhere.
Women know that men want to bang them. Don’t try to hide it. She can’t respect and desire a man who is too timid to make a move. She wants a dominant man.
#17) Being Yourself Doesn’t Work
“Just be yourself” is the poorest dating advice ever. It’s incredible that the majority of the male population still buy this line.
If being yourself worked, every man would be swimming in pussy. That’s certainly not the case.
What is being yourself anyway? An 18-year-old man is usually the product of the false beliefs he was taught by his parents, teachers, the media and society in general.
It’s sad that much of the self-improvement a man needs is about unlearning what he was taught when he was a kid.
There’s no limit to improving yourself. You should be striving to be the best you.
Related: Make Yourself Great Again
#18) Men and Women Are Different
Masculinity and femininity are yin and yang. Both genders have different strengths and weaknesses.
The modern world has it backward. Women are not strong and independent, nor they need to be. Those are male traits. Women are submissive, men are dominant. Women nurture, men build and explore. Men crave sex, women crave attention and so on. The differences are so vast to cover in a single blog post.
Women should not be held to the standards of men and vice versa.
Men want feminine women and women want masculine men. No amount of modernity will change that.
#19) Women Love Selfish Men
Beginning with childhood, most men have been taught that being selfish is bad.
Being selfish goes against your social conditioning but it’s extremely attractive to women because, remember, women want a man who is better than them so it only makes sense for the better one in the relationship to be selfish.
Women derive happiness and satisfaction from pleasing a selfish, high-value man.
#20) You Can Have a Harem
In the past, only kings could have harems.
The modern world shaped itself in such a way that a man who is not a king can actually have a harem.
Western civilization owes its success to governmentally and socially imposed monogamy. Women hate beta males. Since the majority of men are beta males, most men would not be able to find a woman to reproduce if nature ran its course.
Artificially constructed monogamy allowed beta males to marry and keep a woman so that they are integrated into a functioning society. A beta male got the respect he wanted in society and became productive because he shouldered the responsibility of a family.
Thanks to postmodernism and feminism, women now are allowed to exercise their hypergamy without repercussions. That means, in modern times, beta males are left out in the cold.
If you can put yourself among the top men, you can have a harem of women.
Instead of trying to bring the monogamy back and save the western civilization, you may opt to become a high-value man, travel the world and fuck as many women you want.
#21) Money Matters
Another argument that resembles “looks don’t matter” is “money doesn’t matter” in terms of getting women.
I already talked about how looks matter at #5.
Just like looks, money matters a lot in getting women.
When men think about money for getting women, they think in the context of paying women to be with them. That’s not the case.
I’m not advocating outright paying women to be with you. Money has a lot of different uses in the case of getting women.
Having a lot of money will put you in environments that hot women congregate. Money will allow you to travel to greener pastures. Money will allow you to have spare time to spend pursuing the women you want.
Rich men are deemed high value by women not only for the sake of being rich but also for being the type of men who can make a lot of money. Money is an indicator of success.
#22) Game Matters
Game is a set of techniques to get and keep the women you desire. Although a lot of the game stuff is feigning high value to get hot women, the modern society is so fucked up that even the actually high-value men don’t know how to act like a high-value man.
Game will teach you just that. Acting like a high-value man. The teachings of game evolved in time to include improving yourself and being a high-value man, so you can’t lose with studying and practicing game.
P.S. The only way to consistently and reliably attract beautiful women is to build yourself up to become a high-value man. Be a Better Man in 30 Days Program teaches you how to do that.