There are millions of older men who are single but unable to attract and date a decent, younger woman.
Divorce rates are at historically high rates, which means there are also millions of divorced men who end up single after 30, 40, 50 or 60 not knowing what to do about the lack of attractive women in their lives.
When I was in my early 20s, I used to think it would be tougher for me in the dating department after I am 30. When I turned 30, I realized that my predictions were wrong. Not only I was wrong, but I also did better in my 30s than I did in my 20s. In my early 30s, I thought it would be game over for me after 40. Now I am 42 and my dating and sex life has never been better.
In this post, I will discuss the strategies for older men to establish relationships with younger (of legal age, of course), attractive women, where mutual attraction and respect is present.
Understanding the Sexual Market
Younger women of legal age are high in demand. This is especially true when she is in the 18-25 age bracket. It’s triple-double especially true if she happens to be hot. On the other hand, high-value men of all ages are in high demand too.
The sexual market is called a market not because people buy and sell men and women but because the dynamics of supply and demand fully apply to relationships.
Again, high-value men and high-value women are hugely in demand.
A woman’s value depends more on her youth and physical attractiveness than her other characteristics. A man’s value is dependant on a wider range of attributes. This is good news for men because if a woman is unattractive and old, there’s not much she can do to raise her sexual market value but a man has a wider range of options to raise his value, which I will discuss in detail in the context of this post.
A woman’s value strictly depends on her age because a woman’s fertility sharply declines after 30 and completely vanishes around 40. Men are fertile until they die so a man’s value is much less dependant on his age.
I will talk about how to be a high-value man over 40. Lots of my readers are younger men and they are welcome to read this post because not only most of these strategies also apply to younger men too, but also being young doesn’t last forever. You will need them regardless of your age.
8 Step Guide for Older Men to Attract and Date Younger Women
#1) Ignore the Trap of Societal Conditioning
In the modern world, there’s a social stigma attached to older men having relationships with younger women. There are all kinds of shaming language for men who date younger women such as creepy, gross, immature, predator, you name it.
This creates a mental block for older men who desire younger women. Rather than being labeled creepy, gross, immature or a predator, they quietly obey the rules and resort to pursuing age-appropriate dating with women they don’t desire.
This is the wrong mentality to have.
Society doesn’t care about the well-being of men. But, when an older man dates a younger woman, all of a sudden everybody starts to care, but in a negative way. People who will not lift a finger about your problems will start shaming you for your completely natural desires. Ignore them. As long as you are alive, it’s game on. You don’t need anybody’s permission to go after what you want.
Eliminate the shame. Disregard the societal conditioning. Why would you care about the opinions of people who don’t care about you at all?
Yesterday, I was reading Scott Adams’ new book Win Bigly (an excellent book so far). He wasn’t talking about women but something he said attracted my attention:
“I don’t feel shame or embarrassment like normal people. I wasn’t always this way. It’s a learned skill.”
It’s no surprise that Scott is dating a smoking hot model. I don’t think he gives a flying fuck about how society labels him for dating a much younger woman. All the power to him.
There are millions upon millions of younger women who are attracted to older men. Use this reality to your advantage.
#2) Build muscle, Don’t Be Fat
Building muscle and getting fit will skyrocket your odds of attracting younger women.
Forget about conventional dating advice about being yourself. It doesn’t work. Looks matter. Women’s physical standards are tougher than men’s. With all the benefits you get, there’s no excuse to be fat and not to lift weights.
We live in the age of obesity. Most modern men are fat, effeminate and weak.
You automatically put yourself among the top men if you are not fat and you are muscular. Use it to your advantage and watch the competition vanish.
Bodyweight training is the best way to start building muscle. If you need a solid bodyweight training routine that builds muscle fast, check out Ripped with Bodyweight.
#3) Be Unapologetically Masculine
In modern times, masculinity is viciously attacked. There are endless efforts to brand it as “toxic masculinity”.
Don’t fall into this trap. Women are attracted to masculinity and it will always be this way. Effeminate men are walked over, and masculine men are respected. Masculinity always wins.
Men are made to compete, assert and win. Never be ashamed to go after what you want. If you want younger women, go for them. Don’t be timid. Timidity turns women off. Boldness turns them on.
#4) Have an Abundance Mindset
There are 3,5 million women on the planet. Every day millions of girls are turning 18. There’s an endless supply of available women at all times.
All women are more or less the same. There’s no unicorn, there is no special woman. Nobody is indispensable. Never put women on a pedestal.
If your city sucks for dating women, move to the places where the grass is greener. It may be difficult but it’s doable. There are many men who travel to South East Asia, Eastern Europe or Southern America to meet more feminine women. If these places are not your thing, there will always be other countries or cities with an abundant supply of younger women.
Money is abundant too. Get your finances straight and move. Again, it’s not easy but it’s worth doing.
#5) Learn from the Men of Your Demographic
If you have a problem, there certainly are millions of other men with the exact same problem you have. The Internet is a wonderful place to share your experiences with other people.
There are many places on the internet where men with similar backgrounds and interests congregate and share their experiences with each other. Interacting with your fellow men will open your eyes to a wide range of opportunities that you didn’t know existed.
You can adapt the strategies of your successful fellows or you can learn from their mistakes.
You are only one man. You can’t travel the whole world by yourself. You can’t date millions of women by yourself. So, it’s wise to pick the brains of other men and learn from them. You can also make some friends along the way.
This thread is one of my favorites.
#6) Resist the Urge to Show Off (i.e. Don’t Be a Simp)
Lots of older men try to impress women with their wealth.
This kind of behavior results from an inferiority complex. These men feel that they have no value to offer to a young and attractive woman other than his finances. They have zero confidence.
These men have no business chasing girls until they set their inner game straight, raise their value and confidence enough to not rely solely on their financials to attract younger and attractive women.
Showing off will only attract gold diggers. This is a recipe for financial and emotional disaster. You should avoid it at all costs.
Related: How to Choose the Right Girlfriend
#7) Learn Game
Game is a set of techniques to get and keep the women you desire. As I mentioned before, getting high-quality women is only possible when you are a high-value man.
Game teaches you both how to be a high-value man and how to present yourself as a high-value man.
Men like Krauser, Roosh, Roissy, Caleb, and Rollo have excellent advice for men of all ages on how to get attractive women. Read their blogs and books. These are my favorite writers of game but there are many other writers who can provide you with a tailored game which suits your personality and preferences.
Don’t fall into the trap of learning game without applying the knowledge, though. Reading about game without taking action will be a waste of time.
Learning and applying game knowledge will help you adopt a wide range of mindset and behavior principles.
You will learn what to do, along with what not to do when you are trying to get women.
You will not find these strategies in the mainstream media, as the mainstream media hates men and everything masculine.
#8) Dress Well
This should go without saying but I see a lot of older men who have zero style.
Women love a man who can dress well.
Lifting weights, getting in shape, learning game, etc. might take some time but dressing well doesn’t. You can start dressing well today.
It’s unbelievable how many men miss this while it’s so easy and convenient to dress well.
Being single and older as a man doesn’t mean you have to be lonely and miserable. Attracting and dating younger women isn’t beyond your reach.
If you apply the strategies above, you can live in an abundance of young and attractive women. There are lots of men doing it already. Why can’t you?
The bottom line is that the higher your value as a man, the better are your odds to attract the kind of women you desire, regardless of your age. Becoming a high-value man with the right kind of mindset is not easy but it’s worth doing.
Be sure to read:
- 40 Pieces of Unconventional Life Advice For Every 40 Year Old Man
- Be a Better Man in 30 Days Program, (My 30 Day self-development program to improve your value as a man)
- What Does It Mean to Be a Man?